Your Defiant Teen 10 Steps to Resolve Conflict and Rebuild Your Relationship

If life with your teen has become a battleground, it's time to take action. This empathic book shows how. Trusted psychologists who have worked with thousands of families give you the tools you need to overcome defiance and get teen behavior back on track. By following the authors' clinically proven 10-step program, learn how you can: *Reestablish your authority while building trust.*Identify and enforce nonnegotiable rules.*Use rewards and incentives that work.*Communicate and problem-solve effectively--even in the heat of the moment.*Restore positive feelings in your relationship.*Develop your teen's skills for becoming a successful adult. Vivid stories and answers to frequently asked questions help you put the techniques into action. The updated second edition incorporates new scientific research on why some teens have more problems with self-control than others. Practical forms and worksheets can be downloaded and printed in a convenient 8 1/2 x 11 size.Mental health professionals, see also the authors' Defiant Teens, Second Edition: A Clinician's Manual for Assessment and Family Intervention. For a focus on younger children, see also Dr. Barkley's Defiant Children, Third Edition (for professionals), and Your Defiant Child, Second Edition (for parents).

IntroductionI. You and Your Defiant Teen1. What Defiance Is--and What You Should Do about It2. How Defiance Develops3. What Does Adolescence Have to Do with It?4. Is It Just Your Teen's Personality?5. Where Do You Come In?6. How to Find a Way OutII. 10 Steps to a Better Relationship with Your Teen--and a Better Future for Your Teen7. Getting Ready8. Step 1. Making Positive One-on-One Time a Habit9. Step 2. A New Way to Manage Behavior10. Step 3. Contracts and Point Systems: How Teens Can Earn Privileges11. Step 4. Making the Punishment Really Fit the Crime12. Step 5. Tackling Additional Issues with Rewards and Penalties13. Step 6. Addressing Defiant Behavior in School and Conflicts over Homework14. Step 7. Using Problem-Solving Skills15. Step 8. Learning and Practicing Communication Skills16. Step 9. Dealing with Unreasonable Beliefs and Expectations17. Step 10. Keeping It TogetherAppendix A. Sample Problem-Solving WorksheetsAppendix B. How to Find a TherapistResources

Russell A. Barkley, PhD, ABPP, ABCN, is Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Virginia Commonwealth University School of Medicine. Dr. Barkley has worked with children, adolescents, and families since the 1970s and is the author of numerous bestselling books for both professionals and the public, including Taking Charge of ADHD and Your Defiant Child. He has also published six assessment scales and more than 300 scientific articles and book chapters on attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, executive functioning, and childhood defiance, and is editor of the newsletter The ADHD Report. A frequent conference presenter and speaker who is widely cited in the national media, Dr. Barkley is past president of the Section on Clinical Child Psychology (the former Division 12) of the American Psychological Association (APA), and of the International Society for Research in Child and Adolescent Psychopathology. He is a recipient of awards from the American Academy of Pediatrics and the APA, among other honors. His website is www.russellbarkley.org. Arthur L. Robin, PhD, is Director of Psychology Training at Children's Hospital of Michigan and Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Neurosciences at Wayne State University. Dr. Robin is a practicing psychologist with more than 40 years of clinical experience. Christine M. Benton is a Chicago-based writer and editor.