Breaking Hearts The Two Sides Of Unrequited Love

Throughout history, unrequited love has inspired ballads, arias, poetry, drama, and literature. Almost always, however, the tale of the "star-crossed lovers" has been told from the point of view of the heartbroken pursuer. This illuminating new work explores unrequited love from both sides--that of the aspiring and eventually brokenhearted lover, and more unusually, that of the beloved, unwilling rejector. Based on systematically collected first-person accounts, BREAKING HEARTS shows how radically different and often contradictory the two experiences actually are.

Contents: The Psychology of Heartbreak: An Introduction. Perspectives on Heartbreak. The Emotional Crossfire. The Ups and Downs of Self-Esteem. Guilt, Justification, Morality: Struggling with Right and Wrong. What Actually Happened? Lessons Learned and Mysteries Glimpsed. Conclusion: The Two Sides of Heartbreak.

Roy F. Baumeister, PhD, is Professor Emeritus of Psychology at Florida State University (Emeritus) and at the University of Queensland in Australia. One of social psychology's most highly cited researchers, Dr. Baumeister has been conducting research, teaching, and thinking about the human self since the 1970s. His work spans multiple topics, including self and identity, self-control, interpersonal rejection and the need to belong, sexuality and gender, violence and evil, self-esteem, self-presentation, emotion, decision making, consciousness and free will, and finding meaning in life. He has written approximately 700 professional publications as well as numerous books for professionals and the general public. Dr. Baumeister is a recipient of awards including the Distinguished Lifetime Achievement Award from the International Society for Self and Identity and the William James Fellow Award, the highest honor of the Association for Psychological Science.